So, I guess it’s true when they say mum’s are always right, but as a teenager we
never ever want to admit that. Moving away from home and going to university I definitely realised that mum’s bloody are always right. My wonderful mother has taught me all the things I know today and shaped me into the person I am. Therefore, I wanted to take this opportunity to thank my mum on my blog and share with you all 10 things that the lovely lady taught me…
1) Family is the most important thing in the world
We are a huge family, well in our house there is only four of us but if you include the rest of the family we are biiiig. However, there is not one of us that isn’t close. I have learned to always put my family first because I’ve seen how family orientated my mum has always been and that is something so special.
2) Forgive but don’t forget
This is probably the biggest life lesson, it is so easily to trust people because we live in a world where we think everybody will treat you kindly – it’s not always the case. My mum is probably the only person that I 100% trust and tell everything. Forgiveness is definitely key to life, but never forget.
3) Never wear white to a wedding
Bit of an odd one haha, but I never forget a few years ago I had a wedding and I had purchased a white dress to wear – that was a big NO NO from my mum. She came with me to the shop to take it and back and helped me pick something else.
4) Work ethic
In all honesty I have
never ever met somebody with a work ethic like my mum. The only way to describe her is super woman. Every single day she wakes up gives my brother his breakfast, sorts his medication, goes to work and comes home makes his dinner and sorts him out, goes back to work and then comes home and does tea and the next lot of meds while doing everything in between. Growing up and watching how hard my mum has always worked has drove me to strive to do my very best. In university, I worked my butt off to ensure I got the best grade I could possibly get and also worked as a carer to pay my rent. I did it and I have never been so proud, but this was all because I had watched my mum’s work ethic.
5) Always be kind – you never know what someone is going through.
You think if someone is smiling they are ok? You think if someone is out and about they are fine? You think if someone is in work it’s all good? Unfortunately, it’s not always the case and people could be fighting a battle we are unaware of. My mums has always ensured that we believe in this. My favourite quote of all time is…
“In a world where you can be anything, be kind”
6) Tidy Space = Tidy Mind
I mean I don’t think I will ever be as tidy as my mum (I have a lot of my dads ways haha) and when the couch calls it calls. Me and Kyle have always lived in such a clean house, our mum actually hoovers every day which is very annoying on a Sunday morning. Being in university, I realised exactly why mum has always cleaned because it actually does make you feel better. I loved washing my clothes when I lived in Manchester and hanging them on the line (adult life). My favourite smell ever is my mummas washing – really though is there anything quite like the smell of your mum’s washing?! Cooking and tidying has probably become one of my hobbies after watching my mum for 22 years.
7) Stay strong & keep your head up
I’m not quoting Ben Howard there, I’m quoting Sarah Thomas-Rigby. What a strong woman she is. She watches her son struggle on a day-to-day basis and still manages to smile and care for everybody else. If something upsets my mum she won’t dwell on it she will get on with it. It is very rare that I will see my mum shed a tear, and not that crying is bad it’s actually good. I always cry (I get my emotional side from my dad). My mum’s sheer and determination in life has allowed me to always be strong and stand my ground, when I get knocked down and told I’m not good enough I will come back up fighting to be better than ever.
8) Never keep anything from your mum
Made a mistake? Tell your mum. Need to go on contraception? Whether you are underage or not tell your mum. Somebody upsets you? Tell your mum because nobody is going to protect you like her. Anything in the world, just tell your mum. Of course, you always want to be the apple of your mum’s eye and never let them down, but a mum is made to be understanding, they are your mum they’ll love you no matter what. When I wanted to go on contraception the first thing I did was tell my mum, she wasn’t cross in fact she actually took me. I hope one day when I become a mum I will be just as understanding as my mum is, and that my children will be able to confide in me. I really think being able to tell your mum everything is the key to a special bond.
9) It’s OK to let go of an opportunity if it doesn’t make you happy
My mum has never ever pushed me into anything, she always said to do what made me happy. “If you don’t want to go to university do go” Fortunately, it was a choice I was happy with, but if I wasn’t my mum
never would have judged. For me happiness is so important, and more than ever now I am finally choosing to let go of things that do not benefit me or make me happy. Again, choosing happiness rather than impressing others is another lesson from my beautiful mum.
10) Never forget where you came from
Although this is something I have learned from my mum, she got it from my Grandma because it is something my Grandma has always drummed in to us. Another one is, there are good and bad everywhere, that is always repeated in our household. Whether you are the bloody Prime minister or the Queen it doesn’t make you more of a person that anybody else, we all have good and bad qualities. WE are all human. Something I will never forget is where my roots are.
Thank you, Mum, for being a teacher, the best secret-keeper, a strong and determined woman, and most of all thank you for sharing all your life advice with me and helping me shape into me. Whoever I am, and Wherever I go, it’s all because the love and guidance you provided me with along the way.
Happy Mothers day wonderful people, I hope you all enjoy your day.