Turning Your Negatives Into Positives

It’s a difficult thing turning your negative situation into a positive situation – but it can be done. Wouldn’t it be lovely if life could run smoothly forever? Of course it would, but it’s just not realistic. If life was forever great, then we would never appreciate the good things that come to us.

We cannot control what happens, yet what we can do is conquer the unexpected bumps into the road and make necessary detours throughout the journey – and I bet you’ll reach your destination in the end.

We are always going to encounter challenges; what we do to overcome the challenges is left purely to ourselves.

The most important thing to have the power and determination to turn your negatives into positives.

This week has been a learning curve for me, and it’s been a week where I have worked on attempting to be positive in not so great ordeals.

Here are some of the situations I dealt with this week:

Broken Car –

My car broke down, and when you’ve been used to a car it’s quite difficult to go without it. At first I was annoyed about my car breaking as anyone would be, and truthfully yes I did have an ungrateful and angry moment, but did it get me anywhere? Nope.

I could have spent the whole week being unhappy, but instead I walked home which changed my whole way of thinking. On that walk home I took in scenery I never would have noticed driving, I smelt the fresh air, and I smiled and said hello to people that were also enjoying their walk. During the spring stroll, I felt fortunate that I was actually able to walk home – some people can’t do that, and some people can’t go outside. So actually my car breaking wasn’t the end of the world.


A step backwards in savings

Paying for my vehicle to be fixed has meant that I’ve had to take a step back with the savings for the house, which of course I was upset about. I have been saving really hard as has Ryan, and it was a bit gutting knowing I might not have the deposit as soon as I’d like. However, my frame of mind when overcoming that situation was some people are homeless, and I am lucky enough to be saving for my own house.  As I mentioned it’s just a detour on the journey and I will own my house at the end of this journey ready go onto the next.

My Grandad being in hospital

On Tuesday my lovely Grandad got taken into hospital which was a shock for us all. My Grandad is such a hardworking man and he never complains about anything, and I think that is why we didn’t expect it. By no means is this at all a positive situation and can’t really become a positive but we have tried to make the best out of a bad situation.

I turned all the negative and worrying thoughts into positives. My thinking was that Grandad was in the safest hands possible to enable him to rest and get better. Secondly, as a family we came together rapidly as one big unit and all helped each other. I have looked after my little cousin Lusius-Jack most of the week so that other family members could be at the hospital. Obviously with looking after an active little toddler has put a pause on me getting bits done, but we had so much fun.  Without having the role of watching him this week I would have been stuck on my laptop or in the gym.

So, I think sometimes a bad situation can make you really stop and think. Family are so important and sometimes we are so busy doing other things we often forget.


Whether you think you can’t – There will always be a way that you CAN.

If a negative thing happens, I bet you’ll conquer it a lot quicker by positive thinking.

Love Jasmine



Spring / Summer plans

Today I’ve bought daffodils, had a salad, and went for a walk with my sunglasses on so that means spring right? I am just a tad excited as you can probably tell. Here are my spring and summer plans so far (not very exciting, but they suit me just fine)…  Continue reading

10 Things My Mum Taught Me…

So, I guess it’s true when they say mum’s are always right, but as a teenager we never ever want to admit that. Moving away from home and going to university I definitely realised that mum’s bloody are always right. My wonderful mother has taught me all the things I know today and shaped me into the person I am. Therefore, I wanted to take this opportunity to thank my mum on my blog and share with you all 10 things that the lovely lady taught me… 

1) Family is the most important thing in the world

We are a huge family, well in our house there is only four of us but if you include the rest of the family we are biiiig. However, there is not one of us that isn’t close. I have learned to always put my family first because I’ve seen how family orientated my mum has always been and that is something so special.

2) Forgive but don’t forget 

This is probably the biggest life lesson, it is so easily to trust people because we live in a world where we think everybody will treat you kindly – it’s not always the case. My mum is probably the only person that I 100% trust and tell everything. Forgiveness is definitely key to life, but never forget.

3) Never wear white to a wedding

Bit of an odd one haha, but I never forget a few years ago I had a wedding and I had purchased a white dress to wear – that was a big NO NO from my mum. She came with me to the shop to take it and back and helped me pick something else.

4) Work ethic

In all honesty I have never ever met somebody with a work ethic like my mum. The only way to describe her is super woman. Every single day she wakes up gives my brother his breakfast, sorts his medication, goes to work and comes home makes his dinner and sorts him out, goes back to work and then comes home and does tea and the next lot of meds while doing everything in between. Growing up and watching how hard my mum has always worked has drove me to strive to do my very best. In university, I worked my butt off to ensure I got the best grade I could possibly get and also worked as a carer to pay my rent. I did it and I have never been so proud, but this was all because I had watched my mum’s work ethic.

5) Always be kind – you never know what someone is going through.

You think if someone is smiling they are ok? You think if someone is out and about they are fine? You think if someone is in work it’s all good? Unfortunately, it’s not always the case and people could be fighting a battle we are unaware of. My mums has always ensured that we believe in this. My favourite quote of all time is…

“In a world where you can be anything, be kind”


6) Tidy Space = Tidy Mind

I mean I don’t think I will ever be as tidy as my mum (I have a lot of my dads ways haha) and when the couch calls it calls. Me and Kyle have always lived in such a clean house, our mum actually hoovers every day which is very annoying on a Sunday morning. Being in university, I realised exactly why mum has always cleaned because it actually does make you feel better. I loved washing my clothes when I lived in Manchester and hanging them on the line (adult life). My favourite smell ever is my mummas washing – really though is there anything quite like the smell of your mum’s washing?! Cooking and tidying has probably become one of my hobbies after watching my mum for 22 years.

7) Stay strong & keep your head up

I’m not quoting Ben Howard there, I’m quoting Sarah Thomas-Rigby. What a strong woman she is. She watches her son struggle on a day-to-day basis and still manages to smile and care for everybody else. If something upsets my mum she won’t dwell on it she will get on with it. It is very rare that I will see my mum shed a tear, and not that crying is bad it’s actually good. I always cry (I get my emotional side from my dad). My mum’s sheer and determination in life has allowed me to always be strong and stand my ground, when I get knocked down and told I’m not good enough I will come back up fighting to be better than ever.

8) Never keep anything from your mum

Made a mistake? Tell your mum. Need to go on contraception? Whether you are underage or not tell your mum. Somebody upsets you? Tell your mum because nobody is going to protect you like her. Anything in the world, just tell your mum. Of course, you always want to be the apple of your mum’s eye and never let them down, but a mum is made to be understanding, they are your mum they’ll love you no matter what. When I wanted to go on contraception the first thing I did was tell my mum, she wasn’t cross in fact she actually took me. I hope one day when I become a mum I will be just as understanding as my mum is, and that my children will be able to confide in me. I really think being able to tell your mum everything is the key to a special bond.

9) It’s OK to let go of an opportunity if it doesn’t make you happy

My mum has never ever pushed me into anything, she always said to do what made me happy. “If you don’t want to go to university do go” Fortunately, it was a choice I was happy with, but if I wasn’t my mum never would have judged. For me happiness is so important, and more than ever now I am finally choosing to let go of things that do not benefit me or make me happy. Again, choosing happiness rather than impressing others is another lesson from my beautiful mum.

10) Never forget where you came from

Although this is something I have learned from my mum, she got it from my Grandma because it is something my Grandma has always drummed in to us. Another one is, there are good and bad everywhere, that is always repeated in our household. Whether you are the bloody Prime minister or the Queen it doesn’t make you more of a person that anybody else, we all have good and bad qualities. WE are all human. Something I will never forget is where my roots are.

Thank you, Mum, for being a teacher, the best secret-keeper, a strong and determined woman, and most of all thank you for sharing all your life advice with me and helping me shape into me. Whoever I am, and Wherever I go, it’s all because the love and guidance you provided me with along the way.

Happy Mothers day wonderful people, I hope you all enjoy your day.





Why March is my favourite month…

Yaaaay to March, I feel like I’ve waited forever for this month, but then at the same time February has gone really quick (weird). On the first day of March every year I always wake up with a beaaaaming smile, I just love this month and always will. And actually no it’s not because it’s my birthday month, I’m actually an autumn baby. There’s a few reasons to why this month is an extremely special one to me…

1) My Great-Taid

My Taid shared the March loving with me, in fact I think he was the reason it became my favourite month. During my school days Taidy Jack was my alarm clock and would ring me to wake me up for school. On the first day of March I could always hear the chirpiness in his voice and that rubbed off on me. His birthday was on the 16th, and I adored watching him blow his candles out every year – it was something really special and that I will cherish forever. Unfortunately, my wonderful Taid isn’t here to share his birthday anymore but that will never stop me celebrating for him.

2) Great Granny

Another birthday to celebrate and fortunately my glam great granny is still with us to celebrate, but she doesn’t like the fancy meal malarkey, what she does love is to be surrounded by all her grandchildren and animals with a KFC (I’m not complaining). Each birthday of my grannys I feel so very blessed to still be celebrating with her.


A pretty obvious one but wow I just love love love spring! March is the month the nights get lighter and we finally see a glimpse of summer approaching. Admittedly, it’s not quite warm enough to whack out the summer dress, but I’d be lying if I said the summer clothes don’t start making an appearance towards the end of March. I love the fact the light starts to beam through the curtains in the morning (it makes it that tad bit easier to get out my pit). The grass starts smelling greener, and I have to mention DAFFODILS purely because they are my absolute favourite and again it is something that will forever remind me of my Taid so you can bet they will be popping out in my posts here there and everywhere (but at the moment its tulips haha).

4) Anniversary

Last but not least, mine and Ryan’s anniversary and this year marks a special one because it’s our fifth year together. Half a decade… I’m not quite sure who deserves the medal?! Although we had been the best of friends for years on the last day of March Ryan asked me to be his girlfriend (lil softy), and we do something nice together every year to reflect on all our good memories. Last year we celebrated by going for cocktails and to our favourite restaurant, but I’m not sure what we are doing this year. I am already super-duper excited (to receive my medal) haha!

What’s your favourite month and why?



Switching Up My Morning Routine And Why

I’d be completely lying if I said I was a great morning person. My mornings usually consist of my boyfriend shouting me several times to tell me my coffee and breakfast is ready (he’s good to me), but it ends up me having a quick sip of my coffee and bite of my toast, and rushing around like a headless chicken. I’d often get to work and realise I’d forgotten to defrost my chicken for tea or forgot my lunch. Last week the doctors prescribed me antibiotics for three months (I may do a separate post on what for etc in the future). Anyway, these tablets have to be taken in the morning and with something to eat so that means no more skipping breakfast. I really want these tablets to work and I don’t want to start missing and forgetting them. They were the kick up the butt I needed to switch my morning routine up.

Last week I attempted my new routine, and I haven’t had Ryan to make me  breakfast in bed because he’s been working nights so I’ve actually had to do it myself haha!

1) Wake up and grab my glasses

I mean obviously I did this anyway, I’d be doomed if the first thing I didn’t do was grab my glasses. This week I’ve set my alarm for half an hour earlier, in all honesty sometimes it’s only been 15 minutes earlier but still it’s definitely helped. Stopping that 1000x snooze button is the best tip I can suggest.

2) Stop scrolling

I used to lie in bed shattered in the mornings just scrolling through social media purely for the simple fact I didn’t want to get out of bed. By the time I had a nosey it was time to get ready and I had to miss breakfast because I’d spent my morning being lazy in bed. Don’t get me wrong I still have a little look in the morning, but now I do my scrolling at breakfast once I am out of bed and only set my self limited time.

3) Coffee and breakfast

Once I’m out of bed I put my dressing gown and slippers on and head straight for the kettle. I cannot and simply will not function without my morning coffee. Breakfast is so important anyway, but especially now with the tablets so I have been ensuring I have breakfast every morning. Admittedly I have actually been quite enjoying making different breakfasts, but Ryan can come back and make me posh breakfasts again now haha!

4) Most important

After I have had some ‘me time’ and finished my breakfast I will get to the most important part which is my tablets. I have my tablet, my vitamins and a shot of cider vinegar, and once I have done that I immediately feel better because I know I’m not going to get to work and worry that I have missed them.

5) Get Ready & Music

Before I have a wash and do my teeth and all that jazz I put music on and it just lifts my mood. I’ll then get ready and do all the last minute stuff, and then I am ready to leave the house without rushing and I have enough time to grab my lunch.

I don’t think I’ll ever be one of these girls that loves 6am starts. I’ve always been more of a night person (even when I was a baby apparently). I will still probably count the days down until my next lie in and that’s fine because we all deserve a rest. However, I had one lie in this week and I felt horrendous for the whole day and lacked energy compared to the days where I had got up early.

I’m hoping to add a bit more into my morning routine. I would love to try doing some early fitness classes, but I think I might wait until it gets a bit warmer and lighter.

How does everyone motivate themselves in the morning?


My Every Day Make Up

I’m no beautician, in fact I’m pretty bloody rubbish at all things beauty. If I’ve got an event or going out out out then I tend to pay to get my makeup done purely because I can’t get it perfect myself. Unfortunately, I’m not rich enough to pay to get makeup done every day or every time I go out though so I’ve gotta do most of it myself…

Moisturiser and Primer

For quite a while I have used the Urban Decay primer, but more recently I have switched to the No.7 Airbursh Away Colour Balancing Primer and I love it. My mum actually recommended the primer because she has quite red skin. I’ve found that this primer just makes the skin a lot smoother and corrects the colour of pigments creating the perfect base to apply foundation. I also use No.7 as my moisturiser because it sits well with my skin. Continue reading


Now this isn’t a lecture post where I’m telling you never listen to negativity or be negative again, but don’t you just wish sometimes after a mood swing you could rewind. Believe me I’m not all smiles strolling down the streets – I get my down days like many, but I am slowly trying to avoid negative things, people, thoughts whatever it may be. Avoiding the negative bug is proving difficult but I’m gonna give it a good go so without further ado…

1) Avoid negative people

Easier said than done because there is always one moaning mertal and yes sometimes it can be me on the odd days (so that day avoid me) no really I wouldn’t blame you – please do. Anyway, the point is if you are getting negative vibes from someone well then their negativity is going to rub off on you so ditch them and their negativity. If you can’t avoid them then try to be optimistic and turn their negatives into your positives.

2) Don’t be scared to follow your dreams

Step out of your comfort zone and do you, it doesn’t matter what other people think as long as you are happy. One part of me worries like hell what other people think but then there’s another more adventurous part that doesn’t give a crap what people think, believe me I wish I could choose that half to make the whole. I get stuck into a routine and I don’t really like change, and in all honesty the past couple of years have been a lot of fluctuation so you’d think I’d be used to it by now. I’m not. Will I ever be? I don’t know. But what I do know I will always push myself to achieve my goals despite others and their opinions.

3) Say NO

You’ve probably seen this pop up a lot in my blog posts, and I am still learning. The key to avoiding negativity is not doing something you don’t want to do, never push yourself to please someone else. Don’t get me wrong we’ve all done something for the sake of someone else’s happiness, but in reality who’s happiness is more important? How can you make someone else happy if you’re not happy? One thing I have taught myself is that it is essential for me to know my priorities,  for example if I am looking after my brother or want to spend time with him then I need to learn to say no to going to a coffee shop with my friend without feeling guilty. If I want to spend the weekend with my boyfriend rather than going to get drunk with the girls then that’s ok too, it doesn’t mean I’m a bad friend. Sod the ‘she spends too much time with him’ if that’s who I want to spend my time with I will. If they are your true friends they will always understand and if they don’t then they aren’t true friends. (By the way I don’t always ditch night outs with my gals I do love a good cocktail catch up really) but sometimes if I’m not feeling it I won’t be afraid to say no.

4) Don’t compare yourself to others

Social media makes it a bit difficult to not compare yourself to others especially when you see stunning bikini pictures or amazing flat lays and somebody with thousands of followers, but if you compare yourself then your never going to feel good enough. Set your own milestones and hit each one for you and only you don’t do it to be like anyone else or impress anyone else. Of course acknowledge other people and their work and take inspiration but ensure you don’t question yourself. If you know you are doing your best then that’s all that matters – always believe in yourself.

5) Accept that not everybody is going to be a fan of you

It’s not a nice feeling to not be liked, but do you like everyone you come across? I bet the answer is no. So how can we expect everybody to like us? I’m a naturally loud and confident person and I bet that can bug others, and that’s absolutely fine because I’m not going to be everybody’s cup of tea likewise everybody isn’t mine. A massive thing that blogging has taught me is that not everybody is going to support you or like the stuff you do. I have received negative comments but they are nothing compare to the positive ones. Throughout my blogging process I have come to realise that it’s the people I would have expected to support me that don’t bother yet strangers and the people you don’t expect offer great support. Crazy world we live in eyy?


Blog until your heart is content, whether it be someone laugh at it or love it – you’ve done what you wanted to do.

Follow those dreams – ditch your job if it’s not your dream one and reach or what you want to do.

Smile if someone throws negativity at you.

As the old saying goes…  those who mind don’t matter, and those whose matter don’t mind.

No Negatives Vibes please…

over and out x


Valentine’s Gift Guide

It’s actually quite ironic that I’m writing this post because me and Ryan don’t actually celebrate valentine’s day. There’s a few reasons why we don’t, the main reason is because our anniversary is in March so we always save it until then to do something special, we also didn’t really get to see each other on valentine’s day when I lived in Manchester so we kinda just didn’t bother.  I’m also not really a fan of it if I’m honest. However, I do love seeing everybody’s soppy insta’s and cute prezzies! I thought I’d put together a gift guide for those who do celebrate February 14th

1) A jar of notes

For one of our anniversaries I got a glass jar and some coloured card and filled the jar with 365 notes – one for everyday of the year. The notes were colour coded:

Red = I love how

yellow = remember when

Blue = We’re doing this

It took me days to make it and to think of the things, but it was a couple of pound and a thoughtful gift. It was also good for counting down the days to seeing each other because Ryan would open one every day and know it was a day closer to being reunited. I’ve seen a few things like this on Pinterest, and you can also do a jar of lollypop sticks with date ideas on – which is quite cute.

2)A scrapbook

I’ve mentioned scrapbooks before because I absolutely love them, but creating a scrapbook with memories of you both is a beautiful gift. You can get lovely stuff from The Works for a good price. I know that thoughtful gifts definitely make me the happiest so I’d always opt for that option.

3)Cheesy stuff

I mean if you can’t be cheesy on valentine’s day then when the bloody hell can you?! I love jokey bits and bobs and tonight I noticed there’s a stand in Aldi with a few funny/cheesy bits for a reasonable price. I noticed a little hip flask with a joke about gin on it which I know would make me laugh if I opened that.  So if your girlfriend or boyfriend is a gin drinker – head to Aldi!


If you want to spend a little bit more then I’d suggest a voucher for a restaurant or even the cinema. Vouchers are always my go to presents if I can’t think of anything – food vouchers always always always make me excited. Is there anything better than food really?! I actually got Ryan a voucher for a Thai restaurant for Christmas and we are supposed to be using it this weekend but we’ve decided to save it for when we actually feel like going out. Anyway, we have decided we are going to go to the cinema instead so that will probably be our valentines date. However, we are having a bit of a disagreement on what to watch… it’s between The Showman, Insidious or Fifty Shades of Gray help?

5)The obvious ones

I don’t think you can ever go wrong with flowers, chocolate or perfume. Flowers are my favourite and they can brighten up anyone’s day. If Ryan ever buys me chocolate, we always end up sharing anyway so that’s a gift for both of us (although this year it will probably be popcorn). Whenever there’s an occasion I tend to buy Ryan aftershave simply because it’s easy.

The main gift has to be a card in any occasion, I love reading cards and have a memory box full of them.

I hope everybody has a lovely valentine’s day whatever you may do.


A January Reflection

Now this is the part where I’m usually saying right I’ll have to start my goals in February because they haven’t gone to plan this month, but for the first year yet I am not saying that wahooo (pat on the back please).  My 2018 goals have started off pretty well in all fairness so I won’t be making February goals. My intentions are to just carry on what I have been doing and also try and reach some more of my yearly goals. Anyway here is how the loooongest month of the year went…

 What goals have I achieved in 2018 so far?

 MY LITTLE BLOG HIS 15K YAAAAAY! – So one of my goals for this year was to go that bit further with my blog, but little did I know I’d reach half of my goal in just one month. My aim by the end of the year is to get 20k views and I hit 15k last week, and I cannot explain how grateful I am that people actually enjoy reading my content. I wrote a post that was personal to myself and family and was very nervous to hit publish but wow what an amazing response and so much support me and my family have received since. I hope to continue writing some more posts that will hopefully help other families in the future so keep your eyes peeled.

Gratitude– I wanted to start the year off being positive and I decided that every night before bed I would write three things that I am grateful for. I haven’t gone one night without writing in my little book yet, don’t get me wrong there has been nights where I’ve had a crappy day and thought there was nothing good about it, but once I thought there was actually so many things to be grateful for in that one day.

 Healthy- I’ve actually been doing ok at the whole being healthy thing – I mean I could be better but slow progress is better than no progress hey! However, now that dry January is over you can ask me at the end of Feb if I’ve still been healthy because I’m a suckaaaa for hangover food.

Look after my skin and eyes – Finaaaally I have new glasses, and I absolutely love them not even just for the design but purely because I can see clear again. I have also been doing a skin care routine before bed every night but unfortunately it doesn’t seem to be working. My skin is worse than ever at the moment and I am clueless as to why. If anybody has any suggestions pleaaase help.

My January No’s

This has been the hardest by far, if you didn’t know – I set myself a little challenge in January you can read it here. I managed most of my No’s which is why I dashed straight for my eyebrows done after work today. Honestly I’ve felt like a haaaairy man for what feels like forever (too much information) but not getting my eyebrows done was such a chore. I managed my limited spending kinda I guess… I did have a little blow out on the Weekend because I desperately needed new gym clothes and I also bought some summer clothes yesterday. The one January no I did fail was getting my nails done thanks to my bestie Holly – she is just the best at gel nails and I literally popped for a cuppa and left with some pretty gels (oooops).

So all in all I did pretty well with my goals and I am excited to continue them in February. I also did ok with the January No’s, but it’s safe to say I am so ready to feel like a lady again and be able to treat myself oh and drink a cocktail or ten.  February, March and April are my busiest months so let’s see if I can continue…


The Real Reason I’ve taken a blogging break this week…

Anybody that knows me or that keeps up with my blog and social media knows that majority of the time I am posting on my blog at least 2-3 times a week, I try my best to work on my website everyday whether it be writing content or taking pictures. I get home from an 8 hour shift and I am straight back to my desk typing away and don’t get me wrong I bloody love it, but sometimes we all need a break even from the things we adore. This week I’ve felt down in the dumps and also haven’t been able to eat properly because it feels like I’m swallowing razor blades, yet despite feeling groggy that isn’t actually the reason I have taken a blogging break this week. Here is the real reason…


On Sunday I arrived home around tea time, I went straight into my brother who welcomed me with the loveliest smile and said that he had missed me (I’d only been gone for a night) but still. I sat on his bed and we talked for a while and told each other  jokes – I was laughing and best of all so was he.

People reading this that have siblings might think well yes that’s what brother and sisters do laugh and fight. For me, it’s a little different because some days I get home from work and my brother hasn’t moved out of his bed all day and looks so pale and depressed.  I can barely get a conversation out of him a lot of the time so the days that I see him so very happy and talkative I cherish it – which is why this week I decided to take a break.

After having a typical chat on Sunday we went downstairs and he taught me some boxing – that is when I caught in the corner of my eye a glimpse of my dad’s smile. Both my mum and dad looked so happy and relieved that Kyle was out of his room and laughing with us all.

That night I lay in bed thinking about what a beautiful evening I had with my brother, I thought about how difficult it must be for him to feel so alone – in fact I thought many of thoughts. I had a sudden sense of guilt that I come home from work every day to blog, and I know my brother is completely fine with that because he wants me to do what makes me happy but a little bit of guilt sprung upon me. So, I decided that this week my time would be dedicated all to him. And that is the real reason I haven’t blogged or been on social media as much this week!

And what a fantastic week we have had.

From boxing training in our living room to sitting watching the National Television Awards with a tub of Ben & Jerrys it was all bloooomin fun.

Not only has it been a fun week but it has been a blessing for me to see my brother smile for more than one odd day and to hear him laugh for several more days.

Oh and may I add I am still bloody praising him despite him waking me up at 2am, 4am and 5:30am every night to ask me random questions like: his date of birth or if I want a Jaffa cake!! A bloody Jaffa cake at 4am.

So to anyone that has got this far…

Be there for someone whether they have mental health or not.

Drop your exercise class for a night.

Drop cooking tea – get a takeaway.

Drop cleaning your bathroom – do it tomorrow.

Drop scrolling through social media – look at someone and talk to them instead.

Be there for your loved ones – you never know when you might need someone to be there for you.