LIFE UPDATE


I cannot believe not only how fast this month has gone but how fast the year is going. I don’t know if this is the case for everybody else or if it is because it’s my first full year out of education and in full time work but jeepers it’s flying! It felt like yesterday I was creating my 2018 goals, anyway already so much has happened this year.

That being said, today I want to provide you with a little life update as the last few months have been a bit hectic. In April I felt really behind on everything and felt disappointed how the year had started and now things are starting to look up.

I also explain it all in my video if you’d prefer to watch that…

A change in job

So the biggest change recently was a new job, I haven’t got a lot to say on this subject as I am only in my fourth week in but so far so good. This will be my third job of the year and I felt worried about this as when I am applying for a mortgage they might not see stability, however I think it is so important to find a job you are happy in and respected in rather than worry about stability and pay slips. The only thing left to do is purchase some snazzy new office wear…

Extra work

I always go by the phrase ‘a busy schedule is the best kind of schedule’ and that is my life right now. As well as my full time job in an office 9-5:30 I have also decided to support people with disabilities. As you may already know autism is something so very close to my heart and I have a passion to help others with it. Since helping other people there it has also helped me learn things about my sibling and already I have learned different skills to help him along his journey, but I have also shared me experiences and skills with other families and that is something that means a lot to me. Whilst I have no children and I have the time on my hands to do extra work that I in fact LOVE I just thought why not?!

Health

Unfortunately, the month of May wasn’t the best for my health and I am still not right now, but it’s looking better. I started off the beginning of May with a swollen eye and no vision in it, after being admitted to hospital it was confirmed that it was in fact an eye ulcer which I am still receiving treatment for. I also received a horrid throat infection and virus which again wasn’t how I’d have liked the month to start. I have recently had the nasty sick bug so I’m hoping that’s all my yucky germs gone for the year! Despite the poor health I am feeling positive and excited to get back to my normal productive self this month.

Saving

To end on a positive note, just a quick update on how the saving is going – so far so good! I am pretty happy with how much I have saved this year and hope that I continue to do so. Starting saving has made me realise how much you can actually save if you really want something let’s just hope I get my something at the end.

 

Love, Jasmine xxx

 

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When Someone You Love Has Anxiety


Nowdays anxiety is well known and talked about subject, yet it still remains a taboo topic on those dealing with a loved one who suffers with this. Anxiety; confusing, intrusive and frustrating for them and us, the ones watching our loved ones fight a battle.

But do we really know what it’s like for them?

Yes we all have our own daily ‘struggles’ – some may be different to others.

But the struggles we face seem so miniature compare to the dilemma those with mental health problems.

Whether it be confidence, body image, unhappiness – there is always a way we can make someone’s world a better place just by understanding.

When someone you love has anxiety their thoughts are probably similar to this:

Are you laughing at me?

You might often hear the wrath in their voice when they ask you why you’re laughing at them when you are in fact not laughing at all or you may have laughed at somebody else in your household. Of course it gets frustrating the fact you can’t even have a joke in your household without getting accused, but do you think they really want to accuse you? Sometimes the person you love actually does think you are laughing at them when often you are laughing with them. The best thing to do in this scenario is of course reassure them but it is likely that they won’t believe you and in that case change the subject completely to something that they like talking about and if they are really annoyed by this point give them their own space. I bet you bottom dolla that they’d have forgotten about it by the time you come to making them a cuppa later!

Don’t take things personally

Sometimes you might have to divert the route you have set because caring for someone with anxiety requires a lot of flexibility. Something that is so neutral and easy to us like popping to a shop can deem a massive threat on those with anxiety. It’s upsetting when all you want to do is go out with your loved one and they promise you over and over but break that promise every time. In these circumstances, the best advice I can give is don’t take things personally it’s not you! Put yourself in their shoes (although easier said than done) because we don’t know exactly the feelings they are going through; however, I am sure that they really do want to go out but their anxiety is putting a hold on this. Never give up because thousands of rejections might lead to one YES and for as long as they say no to you – just know they are not, they are actually saying no to a potential anxiety attack.

We all love a bit of praise

Now you’re 100% lying if you say you don’t get a bit of a cheesy grin when someone praises you. Whether it be going out in the garden for the first time in a while, whether it be getting out of bed or cooking a meal – the littlest things deserve the maximum praise for someone with anxiety. I often find praising my loved one can encourage them and allow them to take miniature steps. Praise praise praise whenever you can!

Accept them for who they are

Don’t try to change them – you’ll more than likely want to tell them to stop overthinking and being stupid but try your best not too because remember that’s them not you. Don’t let on that you’re worried about them and most definitely don’t tell them not to worry because that’s like telling someone that the sky is green and the grass is blue. Always allow yourself to be available to speak to, but more importantly treat them as you would anyone else and ensure that they know there are more than enough.

Finally – know that you are their rock

When you feel like giving up and walking away just know that the person that is giving you a hard time and making life 100x more difficult for you is not them purposely doing it – their anxiety has taken over. Proving that you are there for someone that faces everyday struggles makes you wiser, kinder and a stronger person. Believe me you’ll find no better connection in the world than it. And when they don’t show the love and appreciation it is purely because they cannot, but know that to them you’re their world, the person they depend on morn, noon and night and that they are so very grateful for your support. Being someone’s rock however does mean that you do deserve a break and when you feel that you require this break – have it and enjoy it – and I bet you’ll miss dealing with your loved ones dilemma and be ready to get right back to it!

Love, Jasmine

xxx

OFFICE ESSENTIALS

When you have a full time office job the office itself becomes your second home, which is why it is important to stock up on all those office essentials to get you through your 9-5 shift (well help you along the way). Here are five things that make my work life better…

1.A Desk Calendar

A desk calendar is not only good at adding a pretty touch to your desk but it is a helpful tool for quickly checking dates. However, my favourite thing about a desk calendar is it motivates me just by ticking off each day I know I am day closer to the weekend, and I have my holidays clearly highlighted on my calendar to give me something to work towards and look forward too.

2.Your own Mug and Water bottle

An office job is the perfect excuse to treat yourself to a new mug, and by that way you can choose the size of your cuppa. Having your own mug on the desk allows you to see when you need a coffee fix – if it’s empty it needs filling right?

With the water bottle I have one that tells me the time to drink that way I can encourage myself to stay hydrated through the day.

3.Hand Cream and Lip Balm

I absolutely love having my mini hand cream handy (see what I did there) haha! When I need a break from the keyboard I apply my hand cream so my hands aren’t getting too dry and back to typing I go. I also have a Carmex in my drawer for when my lips need a touch of moisture. Some would say applying lip balm and hand lotion isn’t a break but for me it’s a few second away from the keyboard and screen and it works a treat.

4.Snacks

I don’t mean a dozen chocolate bars and crisps although I wish I did, however I simply mean having some snacks in your drawer or fridge (if your office has one) for when you hit them those 3pm yawns. Rumour has it that cucumber does the job to pick you back up so I am going to start doing some cucumber and carrot sticks, but I also crave a bit of chocolate with my cuppa mid-afternoon so I tend to have a cereal bar of some sort in my drawer. It is essential for me that I keep cuppa soups in the office just for times when I may not have time to pop out for dinner or forget it etc. – they are a quick fix.

5.Different coloured Sticky Notes

Organisation is everything and if I’m not organised I lose my marbles (not that there is many left too loose). Having different coloured sticky pads allows me to organise my notes into different sections for example work to do, helpful notes, queries and things like that and therefore I come and leave work knowing exactly where everything is and what to do.

 

What are your office essentials and survival tips?

xxx

 

 

Bouncing back after being ill…

When you’re poorly it completely throws you off track, and it can be tempting to rush to recovery. I mean when we are in work we all wish for a day of doing nothing don’t we? But in reality when it happens it gets very boring and draining – well I know that is definitely the case for me. After a week of an eye ulcer which I am yet to get rid of, a throat infection and virus I thought I’d share my recovery tips…

1)Ditch the guilt

Having to call in sick to work gives me a sudden sense of guilt, and I feel like I am letting people down. Sometimes in life you have to put yourself first in order to do your best. If I would have gone into work last week I would have made myself 100% worse, and probably would have made mistakes because my concentration wouldn’t have been in full force. I don’t think work colleagues would have been too impressed with mistakes or spreading my germs so actually I was doing the best for them and me.

2) Don’t overdo it

This is by far easier said than done because when you’re used to being so busy it is difficult to just stop. However, if I do completely stop everything and just lie in bed it does make everything seem far worse to me. I have found the best way to get better is taking little steps, so for example I will have a lazy morning because that is when I feel at my worst, I will then try and do minimal things like have a hot shower, try and read for a bit (a bit difficult with an eye patch on) and try and complete a few emails – with this it is simple things but it still keeps you busy and takes your mind off being ill. I ensure I always have a break in between and will have a cup of tea and a nap etc. so that it breaks the day up.

3) Eat and drink

seems a pretty obvious one that you should and eat and drink, however I found it really difficult to eat this time last week. I found that not eating made me feel worse and really made me lack energy so I tried my best to eat little bits that were easy to swallow like soup. I however highly recommend eating just anything you fancy whether it’s going off your diet or not because you need the energy from food to try and get better. Soup and wotsits were my go to food all week!

4) Fresh air

Sometimes the last thing you want to do when you’re ill is go out especially when you feel like crap and look like it, but quite often fresh air can do you the world of good. Whether it is just sitting in the garden or a walk around the block I guarantee you will feel a bit better for it. I mean at the time you will probably feel knackered from it but fresh air definitely helps clear the air ways and stimulates the mind.

5) Stick to your normal routine as much as possible

I’m not telling you to completely stick to your ritual like going to work and the gym, but what I am suggesting is get up have a shower and get dressed. Staying in my pjs all day makes me feel a bit drained and the last thing I wanted to do last week is tidy my room and get dressed but most days I felt better for it. Even if you feel like can’t cook tea help somebody else, or do the meal plan so that you somehow feel like you are getting back on track.


Love Jasmine xxx

MY MAY GOALS…

I haven’t done monthly goals consistently, but this month I feel like I need too. April brought a lot of change and uncertainty, but I truly believe that everything happens for a reason and better things are too come. Although we are already twelve days into the month, I still believe that there is time to achieve my goals…

1)Focus on my dreams

By the end of this month I want to achieve something for me and not once think about what anybody else will think. I have always been quite confident and lately that has taken a bit of a knock, so this month is all about building my confidence, working on self-love and doing all that I can to achieve what is right for me. I am starting off this weekend with creating a vision board with everything I want to achieve in the next five years and I have faith that will motivate me.

2)Gratitude

If you would have seen my goals from the start of the year, you’ll know that a big goal for me was to have more gratitude. I started off the year well, but in April I really slacked and often was very ungrateful and felt somewhat angry at certain things. I am gradually getting back to it and starting to feel grateful again rather than thinking about what I don’t have I am taking time to think about everything I do have. All year apart from the last month I had a night time ritual where I wrote three things I am grateful for each day and it is important that I get back to doing that this month.

3) Start running

I exercise frequently and go to classes, but with the weather getting nicer and night getting lighter I want to start going for runs along the prom and admiring the beautiful views. I am not the best runner as my boyfriend, dad and brother say I run with my butt up in the air and face into the ground; that is probably why I feel a tad embarrassed haha! Best runner or not though this month I am going to hopefully give it a good go.

 4)Be natural

I guess this isn’t really a goal but it’s goes hand in hand with not caring what others think and building my confidence back up. I have naturally curly hair, but most of the time I straighten it so this month I am aiming to ditch the straighteners and embrace the curls. I am about to purchase some new headbands so hopefully they will look good. I also want to ditch the contact lenses this month (this is going to be hard) I feel like I look nicer without glasses, but my glasses provide me with such better vision and comfort. Curls and glasses is the new trend right?! Haha we shall see.

5) Spring / summer theme

I am loving the gorgeous blossom tree’s and all the bright sunny snaps that have been popping up on my Instagram feed so I want to give the whole spring / summer theme a go which means being outdoors more. I am hoping for the weather to be nice this month so that I can visit places and snap outdoor images and practice my photography.

What our everyone’s summer goals?

xxx

BANK HOLIDAY SNAPSHOTS

I’m sat here with a horrible eye infection as well as a throat and viral infection so as you can imagine pretty rotten. Bank holiday feels like a ages ago now because this week is really dragging with being ill, but I had a faaab weekend surrounded by loved ones so I thought I’d share some snaps with you…

On Saturday morning, I opened the blinds and it looked lovely and sunny so I put a summer outfit on and arranged a picnic. After popping to the local shops to purchase the picnic stuff, I soon realised it was quite cold and foggy so the picnic was off the cards. Instead, we went for breakfast and coffee. Luckily in the afternoon it brightened up a bit (as you can see in the photo of the gorgeous blossom) so me and Ryan met my grandma and little cousins and went to a summer fayre.

Lot’s of ice cream and pancakes were consumed.

After eating my bodyweight in pancakes and ice cream, I then ate lot’s of BBQ food at my friend Holly’s. Saturday night was a mega pamper night, Hol did my nails, tan and blow dried my hair for me (I hate doing my own) so thankfully I have the greatest friends. I arrived home that evening to watch the boxing with my brother which I was very disappointed in because I really wanted David to win.

I usually go for nude or red but this colour just says summer!

 

On Sunday I had to be up early because me and the other ladies had to be at the train station for 12:30. I woke up to glorious sunshine so I took my baby cousin on a stroll along the prom with Ryan and the dog. By 10:30 that morning I was drinking prosecco and getting ready with Georgia and Holly, and then the rest of the day was spent in Chester sipping cocktails and embracing the beautiful weather and company.

Gin or tea?

 

For anyone that knows me will know I suffer really bad with hangovers so when I woke up without one on Monday I was extremely happy. I spent the day with friends in a beer garden but I only drank coke (well behaved eyy).

With the weather being lovely my Grandma and Grandad decided to do a BBQ so that was perfect to have family time. When the sun went down I started to feel a bit under the weather and my eye was irritating me. Lusius was also poorly so we both snuggled on the couch.

What a perfect way to end the bank holiday. I hope everyone had a lovely weekend xxx

 

PRODUCTIVITY TIPS

If you follow my blog or YouTube channel you’ll realise it has been lacking content lately. In all honesty I have missed it so blooming much, and blogging has always been my favourite yet lately I have found a new love for YouTube so expect to see some more videos appear!

So a quick update to why I haven’t been posting as much, I have been doing some freelance Journalism work which has required a lot of my time and in between all of that I have been trying to keep fit and have a social life. 

After having a hectic couple of weeks I thought it would be a perfect time to share my productivity tips. I honestly believe a busy schedule is the best kind of schedule. If I’ve been productive then I feel so much better about myself and now that I’m not as busy with all the freelance stuff I am going to keep myself busy by ploughing all my efforts into my blog and YouTube channel. Anyway here are some tips that helped me stay productive…

1)Have a clear target in your mind

Setting myself targets and goals that I want to achieve definitely works for me. After working all day all anyone ever wants to do is get home and slouch on the couch catching up on trashy TV. Well I know I did, but after being so busy I have now realised there actually is time to get stuff done after work. If I have a clear structure and a deadline to stick to, and start it as soon as I get home from work it helps me stay motivated.

2)Take a Break

Although keeping busy is good sometimes taking a break can be effective whether it’s walking the dog, having a bath or going to the gym; that break can provide fresh thought and new motivation. I made the mistake last Monday of telling myself I wouldn’t go to the gym and just do my freelance work, but I found myself starting to slack around 8pm whereas on Tuesday I took a break at 6:30pm to attend a spinning class and I came home more motivated then ever.

3)Good music

Some people might find music as a distraction when it comes to being productive but it really helps me. Creating a playlist when I’m doing my work helps me to concentrate (especially if it’s quite an upbeat song) I actually find myself typing to the beat at times I’m slightly crazy for sure.

4)Digital detox

It sounds easier than it is! Social Media is 100% the reason for procrastination, don’t get me wrong I openly admit I have completely had a digital detox. However, this week I have tried to just use my phone during breaks and once I’d hit my target for the day and it has definitely decreased my work time If I would have had my phone I would have been effortlessly scrolling loosing 10 minutes each time.

5) Give yourself something to look forward to

Rewarding yourself and knowing you have something to look forward to at the end of your busy schedule will help you work at a faster and more motivated pace. I love setting myself something at the end of a workload because it feels as if I am praising myself which motivates me to work to my best ability. Whether it be a Chinese at the end of the week, or a luxurious bath with a large glass of wineyou deserve it!

How do you stay motivated? xxx

 

 

 

Everyone has a different path – GO AT YOUR OWN PACE!

It is hard making decisions at any age, but being at this age now (22) I have found that lately I have put pressure on myself often forgetting that there is still time and everything doesn’t need to happen at a fast pace – slow progress is better than no progress!

Social media has played a huge part of this, I often look at other bloggers or other journalists and what they’ve achieved by a specific age and drive myself into thinking I should have produced work equally as good.

Other people may experience other comparisons such as, seeing someone travelling and driving themselves into thinking that they should have done that rather than settled down.

There is no escaping seeing peoples ‘perfect life’ on social media, but always ask the question is it always perfect? Of course it may be for them but that may not be the dream life for you.

I am really aspiring to be more patient and teaching myself to take one step at a time. This year it was one of my goals to not compare myself and just do exactly what is my best.

 GO AT YOUR OWN PACE

Life isn’t a race and being truthful I fell into the trap of thinking I should be successful right away. This year I have realised that everyone really does have different paths.

Leaving school, we essentially have three choices: University, a job or college. It was clear in my mind that I wanted to go to university, but for some of my friends they wanted to go to college and others get a job. The choices didn’t differentiate any of us, we all took different paths to suit us.

While I am very fortunate that I chose a course I loved and want to pursue a career in, others go to university to merely get an education in something they are interested in and that again is completely fine.

When leaving university, you solely make your choices. Some people may take a gap year, others might go straight into work, some may stay in the city and some might move home.

After living in a city for three years my choice was to move home. I had experienced the city life and had enjoyed it, but I most definitely preferred home. The choice I made has quite often resulted in people questioning my decision… I can’t count how many times people have asked me why I didn’t do go on to do journalism in a city, and why would I come back round here. Sometimes I’d start to worry that people thought I wasn’t doing my best.

Now, I honestly couldn’t care less because that’s the path I have chosen. I am still using my degree in a job at home and live with my lovely family and for me that is fulfilling my dream. Yet for yours it might be the complete opposite.

Your mind can fluctuate and that is common, it is OK if you want to change your career path or suddenly want another baby. Life doesn’t always pan out the way we think. But one thing for sure is…

‘Everything happens for a reason’

There is no timer on your accomplishments, and there’s nobody going to be rewarding you with a sticker at the finish line (apart from yourself) therefore don’t rush to race somebody else… work for yourself.

If you’re 16 and want to have a baby do it.

If you’re 40 and want a baby do it.

If you don’t want kids don’t have them (don’t feel guilty or out of place).

If you don’t want to go to university don’t go.

If you want to go to university just to learn but not go into the job do it.

If you want to travel the world do it.

If you want to buy a house do it.

If you want to rent a house do it.

If you want to get married at 20 do it.

If you want to get married at 70 do it.

If you want to remain single do it.

Remember: Age is just a number, and most importantly everybody has different paths and the only thing that should matter to you is YOUR PACE.

Love Jasmine


xxx

 

 

 

 

 

 

This Weeks To Do List….


Not sure about anyone else, but bank holiday weekend really threw me off track. It was my intention to not worry about food, money and alcohol that weekend but somehow I’m still in that frame of mind. I have spent all of last week struggling to get up and eating chocolate in bed. Doing no exercise has made me feel really drained – it’s funny isn’t it you think little things like skipping the gym won’t harm you when in actual fact it makes you feel like utter crap.

Doing dry January kind of changed my perception of alcohol, I felt so fresh and motivated that whole month and surely that’s because no alcohol touched my lips. I’m not somebody who can give up alcohol fully because I do enjoy a drink but drinking three days last weekend has definitely made me realise how unproductive alcohol makes you.

Anyway this week my aim is to get back on track and in to some sort of routine…

Cooking and eating healthy again

So now that I have got rid of all the chocolate bunnies I can now eat a lil bit better. Today I have done a food shop and cooked up some healthy stuff for the week. With working full-time, I really appreciate my slow cooker so that will 100% be out this week – if anybody has any slow cooker recipes please throw them over to me.

Breakfast

Having skipped breakfast, I have been absolutely shattered, I never realised how much a good coffee and breakfast wakes you up. This obviously includes getting up earlier which is something that has been a huge struggle for me the last few days.

Exercise

I actually love walking my dog and especially now the nights are lighter, instead of hopping back into bed when I get home from work I am going to go to the gym and get back into my fitness classes, and also go on some strolls with my gorgeous little pooch again (let’s hope the weather is in my favour).

Get back into positive thinking

Although I’ve been reading a positive book this week, I’ve just not really been in the positive mind-set and honestly it is difficult to try and be positive all the time. I think chocolate had a huge part to play in this, I actually sat in bed eating chocolate thinking about how much weight I was going to put on. Last night I actually felt excited for what’s to come – and I also realised that taking one step at a time is so important (I will be doing a blog post on this for sure). Patience is a virtue… and that is something that I will keep reminding myself this week/year.

Organisation

My head falls off when I’m not organised, I love keeping organised and having a plan so when I don’t have one my whole weeks goes to pot. My intentions are to have my bag ready the night before, know exactly what I am having for my meals, and have a clear structure of the week in my head.

Hope everyone has a lovely productive week.

 

xxx

Turning Your Negatives Into Positives


It’s a difficult thing turning your negative situation into a positive situation – but it can be done. Wouldn’t it be lovely if life could run smoothly forever? Of course it would, but it’s just not realistic. If life was forever great, then we would never appreciate the good things that come to us.

We cannot control what happens, yet what we can do is conquer the unexpected bumps into the road and make necessary detours throughout the journey – and I bet you’ll reach your destination in the end.

We are always going to encounter challenges; what we do to overcome the challenges is left purely to ourselves.

The most important thing to have the power and determination to turn your negatives into positives.

This week has been a learning curve for me, and it’s been a week where I have worked on attempting to be positive in not so great ordeals.

Here are some of the situations I dealt with this week:

Broken Car –

My car broke down, and when you’ve been used to a car it’s quite difficult to go without it. At first I was annoyed about my car breaking as anyone would be, and truthfully yes I did have an ungrateful and angry moment, but did it get me anywhere? Nope.

I could have spent the whole week being unhappy, but instead I walked home which changed my whole way of thinking. On that walk home I took in scenery I never would have noticed driving, I smelt the fresh air, and I smiled and said hello to people that were also enjoying their walk. During the spring stroll, I felt fortunate that I was actually able to walk home – some people can’t do that, and some people can’t go outside. So actually my car breaking wasn’t the end of the world.

 

A step backwards in savings

Paying for my vehicle to be fixed has meant that I’ve had to take a step back with the savings for the house, which of course I was upset about. I have been saving really hard as has Ryan, and it was a bit gutting knowing I might not have the deposit as soon as I’d like. However, my frame of mind when overcoming that situation was some people are homeless, and I am lucky enough to be saving for my own house.  As I mentioned it’s just a detour on the journey and I will own my house at the end of this journey ready go onto the next.

My Grandad being in hospital

On Tuesday my lovely Grandad got taken into hospital which was a shock for us all. My Grandad is such a hardworking man and he never complains about anything, and I think that is why we didn’t expect it. By no means is this at all a positive situation and can’t really become a positive but we have tried to make the best out of a bad situation.

I turned all the negative and worrying thoughts into positives. My thinking was that Grandad was in the safest hands possible to enable him to rest and get better. Secondly, as a family we came together rapidly as one big unit and all helped each other. I have looked after my little cousin Lusius-Jack most of the week so that other family members could be at the hospital. Obviously with looking after an active little toddler has put a pause on me getting bits done, but we had so much fun.  Without having the role of watching him this week I would have been stuck on my laptop or in the gym.

So, I think sometimes a bad situation can make you really stop and think. Family are so important and sometimes we are so busy doing other things we often forget.

 

Whether you think you can’t – There will always be a way that you CAN.

If a negative thing happens, I bet you’ll conquer it a lot quicker by positive thinking.

Love Jasmine

xxx