Now this isn’t a lecture post where I’m telling you never listen to negativity or be negative again, but don’t you just wish sometimes after a mood swing you could rewind. Believe me I’m not all smiles strolling down the streets – I get my down days like many, but I am slowly trying to avoid negative things, people, thoughts whatever it may be. Avoiding the negative bug is proving difficult but I’m gonna give it a good go so without further ado…
1) Avoid negative people
Easier said than done because there is always one moaning mertal and yes sometimes it can be me on the odd days (so that day avoid me) no really I wouldn’t blame you – please do. Anyway, the point is if you are getting negative vibes from someone well then their negativity is going to rub off on you so ditch them and their negativity. If you
can’t avoid them then try to be optimistic and turn their negatives into your positives.
2) Don’t be scared to follow your dreams
Step out of your comfort zone and do you, it doesn’t matter what other people think as long as you are happy. One part of me worries like hell what other people think but then there’s another more adventurous part that doesn’t give a crap what people think, believe me I wish I could choose that half to make the whole. I get stuck into a routine and I don’t really like change, and in all honesty the past couple of years have been a lot of fluctuation so you’d think I’d be used to it by now. I’m not. Will I ever be? I don’t know. But what I do know I will always push myself to achieve my goals despite others and their opinions.
3) Say NO
You’ve probably seen this pop up a lot in my blog posts, and I am still learning. The key to avoiding
negativity is not doing something you don’t want to do, never push yourself to please someone else. Don’t get me wrong we’ve all done something for the sake of someone else’s happiness, but in reality who’s happiness is more important? How can you make someone else happy if you’re not happy? One thing I have taught myself is that it is essential for me to know my priorities, for example if I am looking after my brother or want to spend time with him then I need to learn to say no to going to a coffee shop with my friend without feeling guilty. If I want to spend the weekend with my boyfriend rather than going to get drunk with the girls then that’s ok too, it doesn’t mean I’m a bad friend. Sod the ‘she spends too much time with him’ if that’s who I want to spend my time with I will. If they are your true friends they will always understand and if they don’t then they aren’t true friends. (By the way I don’t always ditch night outs with my gals I do love a good cocktail catch up really) but sometimes if I’m not feeling it I won’t be afraid to say no.
4) Don’t compare yourself to others
Social media makes it a bit difficult to not compare yourself to others especially when you see stunning bikini pictures or amazing flat lays and somebody with thousands of followers, but if you compare yourself then your never going to feel good enough. Set your own milestones and hit each one for you and only you don’t do it to be like anyone else or impress anyone else. Of course acknowledge other people and their work and take inspiration but ensure you don’t question yourself. If you know you are doing your best then that’s all that matters – always believe in yourself.
5) Accept that not everybody is going to be a fan of you
It’s not a nice feeling to not be liked, but do you like everyone you come across? I bet the answer is no. So how can we expect everybody to like us? I’m a naturally loud and confident person and I bet that can bug others, and that’s absolutely fine because I’m not going to be everybody’s cup of tea likewise everybody isn’t mine. A massive thing that blogging has taught me is that not everybody is going to support you or like the stuff you do. I have received negative comments but they are nothing compare to the positive ones. Throughout my blogging process I have come to realise that it’s the people I would have expected to support me that don’t bother yet strangers and the people you don’t expect offer great support. Crazy world we live in eyy?
Blog until your heart is content, whether it be someone laugh at it or love it – you’ve done what you wanted to do.
Follow those dreams – ditch your job if it’s not your dream one and reach or what you want to do.
Smile if someone throws negativity at you.
As the old saying goes… those who mind don’t matter, and those whose matter don’t mind.
No Negatives Vibes please…
over and out x